Do you know the serenity prayer? It appears at the bottom of all of my posts. It has helped me to see that no matter how hard I try, there are just some things I cannot control. Someone else's alcoholism is one of those things. I have also had to realize how I enable alcoholics and addicts to continue their sick behavior, by messing with the natural consequences of their actions. I recommend not getting involved, allowing things to play out, and AlAnon.