I have not been in this position with an A child, and don't have a clue how I would handle it if I had to. I think however, that despite all I learned and the advice and ideas for codies etc, from SR and other sources, I would be initially in "mum" mode.
Mum mode is "let me kiss it better, I will turn myself inside out to fix it".
All I can do Annette, is pray for guidence, desire for recovery and healing of issues in the family, for you all........especially peace for your heart.