Welcome, Craven!
No worries about writing a novel! I think all of us here have needed to pour it out from time to time.
I suggest reading the sticky posts at the top of this forum to educate yourself more on alcoholism.
Do you have Alanon meetings in your area? That's a great way to find face-to-face support among others who have also been affected by a loved one's drinking.
"Codependent No More" by Melody Beattie is a good starter book to read.
I was married to an alcoholic/addict, and truly believed that if I could just love him enough, he would change.
I was wrong, and that thinking almost killed me.
I'm glad you found us, and feel free to post and pour your heart out if you need to!