We have LOTS of double winners in my Alanon mtgs. and most of them actively work both programs.They offer really different things and it sounds like you feel you could benefit from both. I have found people in Alanon to ABSOLUTELY NOT be self righteous.In fact it is on the DON"T list. I'm kinda wondering why this guy is there if this is how he feels.Ignore.Delete from memory.IMHO
I have heard alot of people say AA saved their life, but Alanon taught them how to live..both sound pretty good to me.