The part that bugs me about this is I would not want anybody going and telling my ex or my neighbor or my minister that I was in the hospital let alone in the psych ward. I know this person wasn't thinking about the situation but rest assured if he wanted you to know he was there he would have found a way or it would be on his admission papers. I don't think that kindly people are doing us a service when they gossip about this sort of stuff. It's one of the very reasons I don't really believe the anonymity part of the step programs. I don't think people keep their mouth shut about what is not their business. My heart goes out to you but the other day you were very angry, and now you seem to have guilt, he's a grown man that made these decisions. Just go pamper yourself , you deserve it after the week you've had.
