Tam, hang in there and stay strong. You are doing everything right. I can't imagine how difficult this must be for you. Amazing how if you had not protected your finances, there wouldn't be anything for them to go after...the sad reality of being responsible.
It sounds like you have your ducks in a row. I'll pray that you win this battle as you truly deserve to. Take care of yourself the best that you can. It will be tough, but you can do it.
Take care.