People say things for different reasons, the older people would say "You are young you need to get it out of your system" because they were older and married. Then people my same age would say stuff because they didn't want to loose their drinking buddy. If you are in enough pain to post on this site, you should think about just finding AA or a different group to go with. I know what partying is about. I was a wild man, but soon I was 26-27-28 and I was hanging out with younger guys because guys my age were working and growing up. There is nothing WRONG with partying hard when you are 28...but there is something wrong if you are in pain and you keep on doing the same things over and over.