i'm not saying that in a negative way-but am trying to say that rather than the family dissolve and the child ends up in the middle-if he went and spoke to someone or sought help-rehab is good but if there are things in his head he can't deal with alone then he needs help-maybe he just uses for fun-maybe he uses to blank things out-nobody knows-my heart goes out to her and their child-but at the end of the day getting a bit of help ie. someone to open up to-might actually help him and save their marriage-believe me-i'm talking from experience-i lost my girlfriend and everything that went with it-including 2 kids-why ? because i couldnt find the help i needed-thats why my point was-dont write him off-try and talk to him and persuade him to speak to someone outside-it can't do any harm and might save their marriage. sorry if i offend anyone but that's how i feel.