Rayn - thank you for your comments. I do think her alcoholism is still in its infancy. Regardless, I know it will only get worse with time. Maybe it would take another 10 years before she's falling down drunk at night. This is something I do not want to wait for. There's no way I could knowing what I know now.
I love her so much, but I also do not have patience for denial. I don't think I make a very good codependent. It's painful for both of us, but I feel like my intolerance is to our benefit.