(((Steve))) - I see progress
I agree with ((Ann)) that it's not good to awfulize, but even after 3-1/2 years of recovery from crack and codependency, I still slip into that mode occasionally.
One of the people in my life, who is extremely supportive, has always told me "God has you in the palm of His hands". I have to remember that about other people, too. It kinda goes along with what ((Ann)) says.
When I'm struggling with detaching someone, I just envision two very big, kind hands, enveloping whoever I'm worried about. It doesn't mean they'll be okay, but it does mean that someone way stronger, someone that loves them dearly, has them. Don't know if this helps you any, but it does help me.
Hugs and prayers,
Amy