Just remember, that IS a "wish list" he is floating out there. In virtually every contested divorce, one or both parties ask for way more than they expect to get. It's a negotiating position. Hopefully your lawyer is a good negotiator, and you will wind up coming out of this OK.
You're smart, too, to look at some of it as "only money". Personally, I'd prefer to negotiate on the property rather than have to pay someone money, on an ongoing basis, for the privilege of no longer being stuck with him.