Originally Posted by
missphit 
Is it wrong for me not to want to have anything to do with him? is that unkind?
No.
I think you're just at the "Frankly, my dear, I don't give a damn" stage. No one who watches Gone with the Wind thinks, when Rhett walks away, "Oh, but poor Scarlett--what will become of her without Rhett? He's being so unkind!" No--we ALL know that they will BOTH do fine--separately, and that Rhett is right to stop chasing that rabbit down the rabbit hole.
Wish him well, and stay in that space in your head where that detachment is coming from. You're doing great!