Thanks everybody. It is hard not to feel wounded when people warp the truth around their agendas. I keep telling myself that it's the sickness, not mean spiritedness.
The job thing will work itself out I guess. Time will tell. It doesn't look good, but all things for a reason.
Other related issues, today I had to take the step of blocking my father in law from seeing what my facebook status updates/wall posts are by using the FB privacy settings. He's been using my posts to draw inferences (incorrectly) and to gossip. I would unfriend him but I think it would start WWIII. Now that I have removed my posts from his feed he will have much less to work with. I'm very careful about my FB posts because i have to be - I have professional connections on FB - and for him to use what little bits he could for mean spirited gossip has really upset me. I'd like to remind myself now that it's the sickness, otherwise I'd be using some very colorful language...