Dude, we ALL try and control our alcoholics. For some reason when we men do it, we are "controlling bastards", and when the wives do the exact same thing, they are being codependent, whatever.
Bottom line, it isn't likely to get better, in any real way. Just temporarily to get you to back off. Protect your kids and consider if you want to spend the rest of your one precious life worring about what your spouse is doing. I spent 13 years worrying about what my wife was doing and who she was doing it with. She isn't likely to change.
I've heard that there are women out there that actually do what they say, and there are never any surprises. However my picker is broken, so I have no first hand knowledge of this rumor!
Thanks and God bless us all,
Coyote