That is something outside of your control..other people's reactions. Personally as a parent I would be fine to have my kid over at someone is recovery's house. Most people have some sort of experience with addiction..who doesn't have an uncle, mom, sister, kid, that has been down that road? I think it's better to tell kids the truth than grow up wondering. She asked. You told her, sounds age appropriate to me. DOn't be so hard on yourself, you have given your child quite a gift..a parent in recovery.