Originally Posted by liliacfae
I told him that if he could prove to me that he could get help and quit for good... then I may consider letting him back. Is that a bad idea?
First of all, what anything of his friends say to you about your love for him is of no consequence, and I'm glad you see this. We addicts and alcoholics simply won't accept responsibility for our sorrow.
Your fiance has to prove to
himself that he can quit. Before he does that, entertaining any ideas of a reconciliation is useless, for both of you. Sounds like the man needs treatment for depression as well as alcoholism. He will find both in a rehab facility. The longer he's around other using
friends, the longer he will find excuses to delay getting help.
Good luck to you both.