Yay
Corkie!! (Yay
Elsie!!) Way to go!! I am so glad you can see it.
Now you may want to formulate a No Contact plan. Or strengthen and prepare yourself for the short-term future where he keeps coming back and trying to manipulate you or talk you into getting close with him. When it finally dawns on them that you are serious, they really start to get upset, and will come to you with all these admissions and confessions, tears and sob stories, and claims that you are their soul mate, the ONLY one for them, "we are meant to be," etc, etc. Prepare yourself for that and strengthen your resolve to not fall for the manipulations.