Originally Posted by
crystal226 
but that I was asking him to give up so much of who he is and he didn't think he could do that.
You mean, the binge drinking, lying, reckless, verbally abusive traits in his personality make up "who he is"?!
Oh.
Puh-lease.
Where's my tiny violin? It plays such a lovely tune to accompany the "poor me" dramatics of those who refuse to acknowledge their responsiblity in the demise of their relationships.
Methinks it's not that he doesn't think he can give up part of himself, it's that he DOESN'T WANT to.
Don't fall for it. He's just trying to reel you in.
I'm so glad you'll be able to get away for a time and have some space to rest and think. I second chino's suggestion to find a meeting where you'll be staying (and keep coming to SR!).
You're doing awesome.
