Originally Posted by
crystal226 
I am packing some things today and going to stay over at my moms for a while starting tonight. I hope that some time away will give me further clarity into my situation and if nothing else some peace.
Please consider finding a recovery meeting while you're there. Has your mom has done her own recovery work? I ask because if not, she might complicate issues for you. My situation is not the same as yours, but my mom is the last person I need input/advice from and she's a certified substance abuse counselor. From what I can gather, she's just started doing some recovery work of her own and she's 72.
I agree with 2day about giving yourself the gift of time. It was kind of hard for me to learn to manage my most immediate and important needs. I had to figure out what they were first.