Originally Posted by
Corkie 
if this DID happen, why wouldn't he tell me? Why keep it to himself until now? Why wouldn't he come out with it when I asked him about the smell?
Because he didn't think of it at the time. And now, the stakes are higher. As you said, this is a deal-breaker, and he doesn't want to lose you.
I am sorry you have to go through this. But go through it you must, so that you can learn whatever lessons life has in mind for you. As we all do.
They are so, so, so convincing. They learned to be long ago, as a self-preservation tactic. The convincing-ness comes very easily after a lifetime of using it. Mine was so frickin good at it, my head was spinning so much I'm surprised it didn't fly off like a kid's top.
And, sweetheart, glad you're here. This is a very wonderful forum, as you know from your history of visits. Just wanted to make it official:
