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Old 09-25-2010, 08:37 PM
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groybin
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Hey, I am all for "me time"...but done in a loving, respectful way.

Butnot "me time" that is the result of an argument, where HE goes away and HE decides on when to reinitiate contact.

I think 2 people can be in a loving committed relationship where they can give each other space but both feel security and trust during those times apart.

This sounds so much like my former relationship....it got to the point that when times were "good" I was always on eggshells waiting for the other shoe to drop, waiting for him to start getting impatient with things, with me and then he would go MIA for a few days. Only to return later with "hello sweetie" texts.

It never seemed fair to me. If I had an issue to resolve or needed time on my own, I would talk about it, explain to him what I needed to do.

That is what healthy adults do!
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