Originally Posted by
Still Waters 
Where does compassion become enabling? Does ignoring the very real facts about addiction and alcoholism (crime, violence, abuse and neglect) enable that very behavior? I believe it does.
I found forgiveness and compassion the very instant I detached myself from others issues, and stopped taking them personally. Compassion does not mean ignoring, it means acceptance, at least to me. I wasn't compassionate when I enabled and did the codie dance, I discovered I was scared and bitter over what I allowed.