addiction is a disease. we can't help we have that disease.
so if it's such a compassionate disease why do our family members/significant others/friends, spend as much time in support groups learning how to get away from us, as we spend the time and continue on the road of self destruction?
Is not caring about anyone and what we do to them or how we affect others a disease?
I think for our self preservation it is better to remove ourselves from those that keep on blowing themselves up and everyone with them.
I was on both sides. Being the selfish alcoholic and also being abused by one. I understand both points of view. Neither are easy but recovery is about wanting it. When and if we get to the point of wanting it, it takes "Actual" effort on our part or risk losing everything.