Originally Posted by
lildawg 
Another tool is use is to ask myself what part I played in the situation that made me angry. Usually, I can find something I did that opened the floodgates. I don't know why, but realizing my culpability in this stuff takes a big load of my shoulders. I can actually feel the weight lifting.
Good for you for letting your anger and resentment go.
My post wasn't really intended to be directed solely at me and my situation, but what I have learned.
One thing, however, that irks me (and I have spoken to my sponsor about this). Yes, in many situations we have blame. And it is good to take a look at that and understand your part in it all. Sometimes you are not at fault at all. And to force yourself to find fault in yourself when it is not, is, in my opinion, an exercise in futility and can be very painful. However, giving to God, surrendering it to His will and His plan, well, that I can do. Always and forever.