Wow Amy, I really feel for you! I was put in this situation due to my AH actions 15 years ago, apparently he did something to someone, we were both there, both of us have no knowledge, but, this someone put it out here 3 months ago, now that someone has destroyed their relationship with us, our kids , there's and ours who are between 4--10 years and dont understand why they cant speak to each other anymore, this person used my friendship all the while never telling me she had this thing against my AH, so it has just driven him deeper into drinking and us further apart! So thank you for thinking about others and letting GOD deal with it for you, believe me HE will. Sorry for all your pain and trauma and I pray that you will be blessed in other ways and be able to live a happy life, im sure this is a very difficult decision for you! ((((hugs))))