I think when I talked with AH I was looking for a change in him. I was probably hooking myself into hope that there was a change in him but, of course, there was none and I set myself up for that. When I trusted him - my life fell apart. Simple as that!
Your post has validated me more than he did in 3 years of marriage.
Now- - if only i could physically detatch myself from this virus that the kids brought home from school - i would be feeling even better still! Oh well - can't control that one either. Best let it run its course and wait to feel better.