It is a sad disease. Some don't make it. I am glad you are going to see your therapist all week. Forget the brother- he's probably worn out from it all too. H should be evaluated a couple of days. Where is the probation officer? I would think he should be handling evaluations. Just keep calling police and 911 if he comes back. Sounds to me like he needs 28 days somewhere where he is protected from himself. It is an alcohol and mental problem. You are doing all the right things. This too shall pass. Give him to God. Can you get to a meeting? My XAH talked about suicide but never actually did anything besides talk about it and get drunk. My heart goes out to you. Cuddle those grands and cry. Crying is a cleansing.