detaching to me was also to let go and let him live the life he chose 9 months ago by leaving, it was a struggle for me for a long time. I have since stopped reacting to our situation. however, we had alot
of bad behavior between the two of us over this and I have made amends
to him as to why I behaved badly, he fully understood it was the drug and things he did . I pray for him and wish him the best as I truly love him,but I had to let go in order for myself to find serenity. nothing was going to change things if I didnt change myself and I finally did that by detaching from addiction with love finally. I have run into him and visited him in the hospital but my behavior is totally different than when he left, I show my concern but I dont get overwhelmed or try to control US anymore ,but I will be there for him if he ever needs support with his addiction and medical problems, but again, I had to step back (took time)and let go that truly was the difficult part of detaching and that took time. I didnt say anything to him per say, I just slowly detached..