Thanks for the post, I have never really felt disdain, only extreme sadness. That one thing we have to give that is free is love & understanding and yet, not even this, is able to cure our alkies or addicts and we have to helplessly watch them slowly destroy everything, they have worked so hard for in their lives, I stand by my AH, and pray for him to get better, at this moment, I have lost the man I married, but, I know HP, has a plan and a purpose for all of us! I lost my dad to A, at age 15, no one cared how he was feeling inside! My AH is fast approaching that same age my AD died and every day I have this awful feeling... but, if im here, perhaps I can change something... just for today! Thinking of u all. ((((Hugs))))