Odysseus: "You used to be cool."
LOL
Yes, what sucks most about loving an A is they (their addiction) will use all the "normal" emotional tactics of intimacy to be able to keep drinking. It just goes on and on.
The Siren song of alcohol is a truly gripping compulsion for the alcoholic. That's why I always tell people never underestimate how trapped your A is, never ever assume that all they need to do is stop drinking. They need to change course, literally, and find their new bearings in a new sea.
Same for us that love them - it is a real sea change when we give up trying to "fix" them or "get them to see", when we put down the magnifying glass and look in the mirror!
Peace-
B