Hi MamboQueen,
I'm sorry things have gotten to that stage. I'm taking in what you're saying.
Am finding the limits of my concern and compassion, and again, these have been established by him.
I saw some crazy rantings on his FB page, which I know were binge-driven (they just showed up, though I admit to checking in now and then). Tried to contact him by IM over the next few days - he just ignored me. (And already, there's some fast-tempo'd posting on FB from some other woman.)
The distance is sort of freezing time in my head, if you know what I mean.
I could call. He'd only be irritated. So much for all my palaver.
Maybe some of this is coming from guilt. Or from my own need for attachment. (Probably obvious to all of you...) Or just being messed up from the whole thing. I'd like to be there, and he just doesn't want it. Go figure. Will make it easier for me in the long run, I guess.