So ... if I'm reading this right ....
can it be possible you really can't see
that's just another version
of a control trip, then?
You want what you want - your way?
And somehow religion backs it up you should get it?
I've never known either an alcoholic or a codie to get that.
Not a single person here -
either here, or in the alcoholic forum
got to keep their lives intact
by stopping drinking
or stopping someone else from drinking.
No one gets their way in recovery.
I think I see now why the others were saying it's your problem.
Whenever we try to bend someone to our will
it's our problem.
The need to control someone - anyone else
to suit our own purposes
even if it's for THEIR own good -
is a problem all right.
OUR problem.
I hope you find what you're looking for.
Good luck to you then.