We all do what we have to do to survive, but please don't fool yourself into thinking that a passive-aggressive approach to dealing with your husband's drinking is ever going to change him. You have every right to refuse to kiss him when he's hurting you, emotionally or otherwise. But don't expect that refusing to kiss him or go to the store for beer is ever going to have any kind of impact on his drinking. When he asks for money to buy beer, tell him the truth. Tell him that there is no money in the budget for beer. If you don't have health insurance, that money needs to be put aside for an emergency. If you think he'll take it anyway, then don't keep the extra cash in your purse. Put most of it a savings account until you need it.
btw---that hypothetical "emergency" fund may be used someday to take your kids away from this insanity.