Yes, I agreed to marry him. Then he went home and met with all of this. I've watched him withdraw some, hurt, call hurt, I've heard his account of whats been happening and heard them talking to him. I hated that. He was telling them he was missing me and this was hard and they basically laughed at him and told him his feelings didn't matter.
The aunt has warned him not to be controlled by me, and that he should watch out for me because I have come through alot and will project all of my former problems onto him. She told him I would be controlling. I'd like to smash her face in at the momment.
I'm very tempted to get in there and fix things which will only hinder more. He's feeling 'young' right now--he's been treated like a guy without a brain and I want to heal him, tell him what to do and make sure he does it. For me, it was a stretch to tell him that I wanted him to come here--just to tell him what I wanted I was worried would be too controlling.