There are all types in the program. I have been in for 12 years and I have had people push the boundaries. This woman sounds pushy, even if her intentions are good. I always tended to avoid anybody who pushed themselves on me or judged me. You do not "have" to do 90 in 90. In fact, I am doing my first one after 12 years of sobriety. I am half way. If you are attending regular meetings and not picking up the first drink, you are doing just fine. At some point, you might have to set a clear boundary with this person and stick with the woman who are supportive in a way that seems less intrusive.