She's asked a few times about meeting for coffee before the meetings, and I'm still getting used to going to meetings as it is. I feel bad hurting someone's feelings, but honestly, I hardly know her, and I don't really want to meet for coffee. She attends meetings every day, and I am sort of getting the feeling that AA is her life.
I like these women, but I kind of want to keep my personal and private life as separate as possible. If she called me at 3am and was scared of relapsing, OF COURSE I would help her as much as I can. I would talk to her for as long as she needed me to. But I don't want AA to be my whole life. Maybe I'm overly sensitive, but I can tell that she is part of a clique of women, and honestly, I don't want to be part of a clique. I don't want to feel like I'm in Mean Girls sitting with someone else at lunchtime if I'm sitting with someone else at a meeting.