Originally Posted by
NewGrowth 
Then I don't know what to say. I'm so frustrated. I feel like an idiot and a failure at AA.
Good, if you ain't failing at some level in AA you're not working the program hard enough.
First remember that not all AA meetings are "social".
Get to the meeting at least 15 minutes early and after the prayer go back to your seat and sit there for at least 15 minutes after the meeting. If it is a "social" meeting people will begin to see you as a fixture and not just another "fly through" and the socialization will begin.