abnheel,
If your wife is willing to look into Al-Anon, it will help her a lot. It isn't about you and what you did, or are doing now, it's about how she feels about it all.
Don't let her feelings derail you. I was married to two alcoholics, and it's no picnic. It does take time to adjust to sobriety. In her case, there's the added adjustment of apparently being unaware exactly how big a problem it was for you. So she's probably also second-guessing herself, wondering how she could not have known, etc. It's all part of the process. Alcoholism affects everyone it touches, including family and friends.
Congrats on your sober time, and keep going!