Your significant other
So, I have been sober for over 3 weeks now and admit to all of the lies and issues with alcohol. How I hid it, felt like I had to drink, constant lies, out of control, etc. I've finally been able to just accept that I was in denial and for whatever reason, always thought I was trying to be 'controlled'. I would always be defensive, etc, etc.
However, 3 weeks in, there are still those times when my wife, after spending the day thinking, is angry again with me. Her mind does race and given enough time, she can think of instances in the past where I have deceived her.
Other than agreeing over and over again that, yes, I was a POS, is there a way to acknowledge how she is feeling and explain that everything I am trying to change is because that wasn't necessarily me and I was out of control?
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