2:00 over here is considered 'high tea' it's daytime formal.
google it, hon.
it's a couple of steps higher than old fashioned church...
LOL for lack of a better way to put it.
Your mom will do great with a dress/jacket ensemble,
sorta like the Queen, just not as dowdy.
And -= US reules are diffy than English rules - you said 'posh' and that
tends me to think you're UK?
here's a place to start -
http://weddings.about.com/od/wedding...earsumme_9.htm
noticed it says hat is appropriate if outside LOL
CRACKS ME UP that the people putting these things on take no consideration what ever that the guests havfe to go out and buy all this crap. LOL