Originally Posted by
justjo 
iI mainly came in here for help for my sister but I lost her 9 months ago to alcoholism. I still have tears but this forum keeps me going and keeps me stronger to get through every day.
a big hug for you, ok. I know you are hurting, but as you treat your son as 'the stranger' you dont know, it will get better. Keep reminding yourself that you will not put up with 'stranger' 'behaviour'.
JJ
I am so sorry about your sister, JJ. It must be very hard still. I know that this forum has been a miracle, at the right time, and you must feel the same.
Thank you too, for sharing. We sure have had similar lives. I am glad to hear that I can still grow, and become a better parent, and one to myself, too.
I do like using that "stranger" technique. It helps, and makes sense. It reminds me of my boundaries, which I really need .
hugs,
chicory