Originally Posted by
chicory 
Today my son was being very nasty,...he would not listen, said to let him take care of his own business.
Please respect your son enough to follow his instructions. Let him take care of his own business.
Including paying his fines, legal fees, court costs, housing, and food.
I would go to court and I would tell the judge that your son is no longer welcome to live with you and would tell the prosecutor the truth about him, if the prosecutor cares.
I would not pay for a phone card for him. Do you want to hear him whine and guilt you and blame and snivel? What do you think he's going to use it for?
When he gets out, hand him the number to the Salvation Army and a list of homeless shelters. Have his stuff packed and in the garage, and have the locks changed and rods put in the window so he can't come in.
Let him take care of his own business, and maybe he will finally acknowledge that his drug use and it's consequences
are his business and nobody else's.
You can't fix him. But he can break you.