Originally Posted by
chicory 
i have big debts too, which my son never felt inclined to help with. even tho most of it was incurred helping him,
i do not want to accept the calls. he will be safe there, and what can i do to help him now?
Bravo Chicory!
Please honor yourself and unplug the phone!
The part about your debt from helping him out, write it down and keep it in your wallet. Every time you want to financially help him, you will see your reminder of how it ends up - more unpaid debt.