If it helps.
My family closed the door on me.......a couple of years before i stopped drinking.
They were told if they wanted to help me...stop enabling me.
My mother did it but aged twenty years over night.
i think it was the most loving and caring thing my family ever done for me.....they put aside there own pain to help me crash and burn.
today i love my mother for the sacrifice she made for me.......she let me go.
even when every ounce of her being, wanted to mother me.
plus she now get to look 20 years younger than me.....lol.