Hi There
I know people who can moderate, but IMO I think they still have an issue with alcohol.
A woman I know loves her wine, drinks every night a couple of glass, whatever that equates to idk. Buzzed probably every night. On time for work every morning.
A older gentleman who goes to the bar drink with a group of friends most days, drinks from 2pm - 5 pm, never makes trouble or misses a grandson baseball game.
My mother drank at night, got a buzz i guess, never passed out, respectable corporate job, was quiet and stayed under the wire.
They are not abusive - they function well, but still NEED the alcohol for some reason.
My RAH could not control any aspect of it.
But I think the difference is they have never progressed beyond where they are now. They are able, for whatever reason, to maintain their habit without it negatively affecting their lives or other people's lives (enough so it goes unnotice)
From my mother's point of view - I think it was shame and embarrassment that keep it "under control"
just my opinion