I am trying to take care of myself... I am going to have hip surgery on Sept. 10..right in the middle of all this.so there is lots of paperwork and preperations all at one time, but I feel strangely calm about it all. Still keeping my serentity, knowing I am not in control of this and have done my part.. so different than where I was a year ago, panic attacks to the point I couldn't breathe. I will have one year in alanon next month..what a difference it has made for me. Feel overwhelmed by all your love and support..