for me - it's truly not excuse ~
It's about acceptance, understanding and letting of what i know "should" have been, what "could" have been and allowing the God of my understanding to heal me of what actually "was".
It's not excusing their behaviors, allowing them to get away with anything - it's just letting the past go and getting on with living in today.
Just what works for me - doesn't mean that it has to work for everyone else or anyone else.
Please take what you like and leave the rest
PINK HUGS,
Rita