My family is of the persuasion "If we don't talk about it it's not there" of course that never really works.
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This is my family to a T as well. After all we went through with my father's alcoholism, my drinking was ignored because I remained responsible and still took care of her.
My mother is a huge trigger to me, because she is childlike in her demands and needs that we all take care of her and sees my problems as a great thing for her, because if I cannot find a place to live and get a job before they forclose on the house, I will have to move in with her.
Hang in there and do not let her problems continue to be hers. I now realize that I need to work hard not to be like my mother and it is some motivation.
Melissa