Detachment with love means caring enough about others to allow them to learn from their mistakes. It also means being responsible for our own welfare and making decisions without ulterior motives-the desire to control others.
Once I was able to really wrap myself around this concept, I was able to begin to detach with love from my son. Before I understood detachment, I would say that I did what I did for him out of love, but it was really equal parts love and fear. Some wonderful people here taught me that I could love my son right into his grave if I got in the way of his life lessons. I learned that the most loving thing I could do for him was to
get out of the way so as not to interfere with the connection between him and his own HP.
Detachment is hard, but today I would tell you it's worth it.