When I first started attending Nar-Anon meetings over 2 years ago, detachment was such a strange concept to me. How could I "Care enough not to care". It took several months of reading my codie books, attending meetings and sharing with others just like me to grasp the concept and exercise it in my daily life. There is no telling the weight that lifted off my shoulders when I started practicing it!
WOW! I could actually continue to love and care for my qualifier without giving up myself! I could actually make decisions that benefited ME instead of everybody else! The most liberating and healthy thing I have ever done!